Dear Humans,

I wrote a really good response to some gatekeeping post on polysexual/polyamory/polygamy but tumblr mobile ate it. So I’m just gonna say it here.

Poly and ace/aro people belong in the LGBTQ+ community.

(Even if their straight-variant)

Hear me out: They deserve to wave the rainbow flag. The flag was designed for anyone who fights against inequality based on the foundation of love or sex, or the lack thereof. It was meant to be an umbrella that combined all attributes of the LGBT community.

Sexuality
Life
Healing
Sunlight
Nature
Magic
Serenity
Spirit

But we were the ones who fragmented it: by gaslighting each other, we divided our own community into subjective echelons of worth.

Don’t let gays be misogynistic
Don’t let lesbians be transmisogynistic
Don’t let polysexuals be homophobic
Don’t let aces be biphobic
Don’t let trans people be racist
Etc.

Polyamory isn’t only about ‘multiple sexual partners’ just like being gay isn’t only about ‘fucking dudes,’ or being trans isn’t only about ‘hating your body.’ It’s about an identity that you are shamed into hiding, that you are discriminated against, that you are legally not allowed to practice or for which you are killed.

Yes, these degrees vary on the class, the culture, the wealth, and the society: but prejudice is without fail. As a community it is important to be together in solidarity: a oneness and wholeness built in inclusivity and love, support, trust, and ambition.

—We shouldn’t deny any individual unless they’re pedophiles or rapists. We don’t want or need their representatives.

Sure prides used to be riots instead of parades. But those fighting were not only gay, they were not only lesbian, they were not only trans: it was anybody willing to love and support them. If you had sided with the queers: you were a queer. The flag may represent gays. But anyone should be able to wave it and be proud. Because they are fighting for the right side.

So why not let polysexuals fight alongside you? You may gain an ally, or maybe even a few.