Tag: kindness

Dear followers,

My first trans headcanon:

I was about 11 or 12 when Ed, Edd, and Eddy started airing on Cartoon Network. In particular the episodes where Double D’s hat is commented on. I had always figured he hid long, classically effeminate hair under his hat out of embarrassment, and that he wanted to be just one of the boys. Everyone in the show treated him as a guy regardless. That seemed really cool to me; and it kinda stuck with me into adulthood.

Clearly I was just beginning (the limited) American sexual education. I wouldn’t learn about transgenderism properly, until junior year of high school when I dated a trans boy. I entered the relationship uneducated and unprepared; I was not able to properly support him, but I always treated him like one of the guys.

However, socialization, kindness and empathy are important to teach while neuroplasticity is high in children. Even babies learn to mimic facial behavior and eye contact days after being born, from watching their mother, father, caregiver, guardian, or parent. Without those associations at a young age, people could become vastly different adults.

Kindness is something that can be taught; kindness can be learn. It’s just easier for newer people to understand it, since it’s behavioral.

madammuffins:

caffeinewitchcraft:

Relationships get so bananas when you start deciphering the other person’s love language.

Like I thought I was just acquaintances with this person because they never told me details about themselves and we just talked movies and writing . But then they made time to have coffee with me and they showed up out of breath because they ran. Like. RAN to be on time for coffee with me?

And I was like “i don’t mind waiting” cause I never want to run

But they said they wanted every minute they could get because I’m so busy usually

Which is when it clicked that I didn’t get how much they considered me a friend because I just straight away didn’t see MY signs of affection in them and went “cool! Casual buds it is.” But now that I’m seeing their signs of affection, I feel a little silly for dismissing them like that even though I felt like we could be best bros.

Anyway, some people show affection through time or intensity or commitment and not vocally. I really have to remember that!

Fyi- just in case you didn’t know.

TOUCH got a bro that likes to give high fives? Back slaps? Are they a hugger? Do they not blink an eye at cuddles?

QUALITY TIME this bro will (as op stated) sprint to spend every minute possible with you. Every second that you guys are together is a declaration of affection.

WORDS does your bro tell you how amazing and great and fantastic and wonderful you are all the time? Guess what…?

GIFTS do they buy you coffee? Snacks, energy drinks, spot you at the restaurant? Did that one key chain remind them of you? Ding ding!

ACTS are they always doing things for you? Ie: Nah bro, I got this, I can do that, need me to get anything for you, I can help with…?

PRO TIP – The way people show love is often how they receive love as well.

This is exhausting.

solarpunk-aesthetic:

Over the past few days, I’ve had a post about how humans are generous by nature get a reply that “the promise of utopia is exactly what justifies mass homicide.” I’ve had a post about how science can help improve the world get me told that people like me “don’t know shit about what they eat or where it comes from.” 

Nasty comments and talk of atrocities? Why are people like this? Why do things like these even cross people’s minds? I’m starting to wonder whether I’m wrong about humanity after all.

I made this blog as a reason to be optimistic. But the commentary over the past few days has been really depressing, and that’s not what I’m here for.

I’m taking a break.

I’m glad you’re back. I don’t even remotely know how solarpunk creates disastrous imagery; but I also get my fair share of regressive hatred. You fight hatred with aggressive kindness. Do not show weakness or remorse, whenever it comes to loving humanity and supporting everyone.